Changing Your Self Perception and Feeling Good about Yourself
How
do you feel about yourself today? Are you thinking that if you could just lose
weight you would feel happy, or life would be perfect? Are you wishing you had
enough money to go buy that hot new car that will make you the envy of your
mates? For many of us, our body image or our possessions help define what we
think of our self. We live in the future rather than in the present.
When
this attitude of “life will get better when something happens” affects the way
we live our life, we need to challenge those thoughts. As we learn to love and
appreciate the person we are now, we will find our focus is not on what we can
be but on who we are now. This is the perspective we want to have and we need
to have. If we don’t love ourselves now, we potentially can keep looking to
what the future might do to help us to improve ourselves. We need to embrace
the person we are now and see that the resources to be better or to do better
don’t lie in external things, but are already inside us.
Unless
we want to lose weight for ourselves our weight loss attempts probably won’t be
successful. We should approach a
promotion or new job with the self-confidence we are capable of doing the job,
rather than the significance we feel it gives to us in the minds of others.
We
can hinder our own development and achievements if we try to live in the
future. By embracing the opportunities we have today and the people we are
today, we are more likely to achieve our goals and ambitions in the future. Our
self worth is not dependent on what we do, but unless we learn to enjoy the
person we are and appreciate that person, we are more likely to base our self
worth and self esteem on our achievements.
The
danger of this approach is that if we fail in our expectations, it undermines
the way we think about ourselves. Our self-esteem remains weak and we usually
feel less incentive to keep trying new things. If we base our self worth on
accepting ourselves as we are today, every achievement can be celebrated and we
can deal with challenges as growth experiences.
Fractional Relaxing for self mastery
Think of yourself achieving your dreams
